Don’t Second Guess Your Life

Do you ever find yourself going back through the decisions you’ve made and wondering how your life would be if you had made different choices? I know I do. But, as the movie “It’s a Wonderful Life” makes abundantly clear, we have no understanding of the impact that we’ve made in this life. Our decisions, good or bad, have brought us to exactly where we are and affected other people’s lives in ways we can’t imagine. Even the smallest choice could have had a major impact, just like The Butterfly Effect.

While it might seem fun sometimes to reminisce about how life could have been different, it’s a dangerous trap to get into. You’ll spend all your time wondering what could have been instead of making things happen now.

We need to let the past be the past. Accept that the only thing we have control over is the future. And decide to make a better future.

What I’ve been doing is following some great advice from Andy Stanley in the book The Best Question Ever. When you have to make a choice, don’t just ask yourself if it is a good choice, ask yourself it is a wise choice.

Hopefully by doing that, I’ll spend much less time second guessing my choices.

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2 thoughts on “Don’t Second Guess Your Life

  1. Sometimes the choice to pick up $20 off the ground can completely change your life. It, and a lot of other seemingly inconsequential actions have done the same for me in the most surprising ways. Knowing this, I can never know what would have happened if things had been different.

    • Of course. Often I say, «If I had known then what I know now, I wouldn’t have done the same», but of course the point is that it’s by doing what I did (such as dropping out of college, and later leaving a perfectly good job) that I learnt that I shouldn’t have done it, IYSWIM (and yes, I know that this sentence is rather convoluted 😉 ).